Heya Queen, how you doing?
Thanks for being here and taking the time to read this latest blog post. All posts I write come from the heart, yet this one feels like it comes from the deepest part of mine. Which part you ask? The part that wants healthy, happy, balanced love.
You may know - or not if you're a new-comer - that due to experiencing childhood trauma, my definition of love was that "love = violence". It showed up in many ways, mostly with people disrespecting my boundaries, dismissing my experiences, silencing me and trying to force me into rigid gender roles. And of course, being a woman being beans less than, right?
It wasn't until I began Yoni steaming that I began to see that I had a warped and dangerous definition of love. And worse of all: I didn't love myself. So what did I do?
I began redefining love.
I did some journalling whilst Yoni steaming, exploring what loves means to me. It was the start of an empowering journey that lead to me cultivating a healthy relationship with myself. I developed my own standards, boundaries and non-negotiables; thus no longer needed external validation. This made it to easier to walk away from, people, places and situations that were less than, leading me to healthy, balanced ones. I began building friendships with supportive people, seeing my trauma transform, experience emotional growth and continue to develop a deep self-love. It was great because I was reclaiming my agency in power in creating a life full of love instead of live the small one filled with emotional, mental and physical violence.
So with that said, take a look at one of my journalling entries and take your turn too! If you have a go, feel free to send it to me and join a circle to share and inspire other women!
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I must also add:
Love is authenticity
Love is showing up grounded and whole
I look forward to reading what you come up with. Not sure where to start? Just do what I did:
Create a calming and relaxing environment - low lighting, scents and soothing sounds
Think of some grounding exercises - Yoni steaming, stretching, deep breathing or something you can easily turn to if you feel triggered
Now, think of the ways in which you've experienced something negative and what told it was love, and write them down
Next, think of the exact opposite of those to start defining what love is
Maybe even take it further by and adding more definitions that are fun and flirty!
Want to do it as a group or a safely held space? Then join the online, pay-what-you-can event
I truly hope to see you there so we can rediscover, redefine and reconnect to our definition of love.
Queen, it's time to reclaim your throne.
